Long distance relationships are going to be tough no matter what advice you follow. But there are certain things you can and can’t do to make it a little less stressful. I know from first hand experience that dealing with this kind of separation can cause high levels of anxiety and tension. My boyfriend is currently attending Temple University, and while it isn’t incredibly far away, not being able to see him more often has been tough. However, I have gathered some tips for how to have a successful long distance relationship:
Both parties must contribute.
In order for this set up to work both partners must put in equal time and effort towards keeping the relationship afloat. The person at home must understand that college is an adjustment, and that their boyfriend or girlfriend’s new life may limit their free time.
Don’t give up if things are getting complicated.
Going along with my previous piece of advice, people need to understand that it’s not all going to be smooth sailing. There is an adjustment period for the party that is beginning the next stage of their life and with that adjustment comes a lack of time to spend paying attention to their significant other. Don’t take this personally, just remember the feelings you have for that person and why you love them. This should help get you through until the next time you see them.
Always be honest with each other.
I know this is a very typical piece of advice for people in relationships but it is important to be completely honest with your partner, especially when you are separated. It’s crucial that you express what’s bothering you so that you can work through it as opposed to allowing your imagination to run wild with negative thoughts. People can’t read your mind, in order to get what you want you have to tell them.
In the end, long distance relationships are all about trust, patience, and effort. However, you can’t force people to contribute to a relationship. So, before you decide to get into one make sure you are willing to do so. I know that despite the ups and downs I love being in the relationship I’m in. I feel like people in our generation give up so easily on love. If we aren’t getting exactly what we want right when we want it we are completely unsatisfied with the relationship as a whole. Long distance partnerships take a lot of work and commitment, but that doesn’t mean they can be successful. In the end you just have to take it one day at a time and not let others influence your decisions based on their faith in love.